It’s no news that most women around the world including you, tag men as polygamous in nature and cheats when it comes to relationship and marriage.
You feel it’s just in his DNA.
You say to yourself, “well, it’s just a very few percentage who do not cheat. So all men practically cheats”.
Only very few women out there in the world takes responsibility to the cause of a cheating husband. The blame is often on their husband.
What then can be the truth of this all?
Well, you will get to find out as you read on.
To clear the air and to have a perfect understanding of this post, you must first have the believe that not all men are cheats.
If we say good people exist in our world today, it’s evidence that bad people do exist also.
What is cheating all about and what does it mean to cheat?
It’s that really a question to talk about? Of course our definitions of cheating vary and are peculiar to us as individuals.
You should rather be concerned with more complex questions.
A big question you should consider is WHY DO MEN CHEAT, especially in marriages. Secondly, how can you help your husband from staying of the cliff of cheating?
This post will focus more on answering both questions above.
Having a cheat as husband
Having a cheat as a husband can really be frustrating and it breaks you at every single thought. You begin to live a life with your partner knowing no trust.
How can such marriage bring Joy if not sadness?
The bitter truth is that a man can be faithful and committed while in a relationship but looses those qualities when married.
What can be the cause of such negative change you may ask?
Things to note concerning a cheating husband
Let me talk you through some key things to note, most especially the things which triggers cheating in marriages from the male folks.
Cheating as a habit:
Whether you like it or not, cheating is a habit learned.
Yeah, it’s a habit and once your man has such habit before marriage, he’s more likely to cheat while in marriage.
It’s a habit glued to the lack of commitment.
So if you can’t get him to stay committed to you alone in a relationship, it’s obviously difficult to do it while in marriage.
It doesn’t mean people don’t rise and fall or change from bad to good.
Cheating is a decision:
Commitment is a decision and so is cheating.
A man who wants to cheat or one who has made up his mind to cheat will definitely cheat.
His mindset goes a long way.
But before this decision is made, some factors trigger them, giving reasons why cheating should be given a chance.
Unbalanced love in marriage breeds cheating:
Most women force their husbands to cheat.
How you may ask?
It’s all because they have failed to balance love between their husband and kids.
Majority of men who cheat on their wife have got growing kids.
When women start giving birth, they find it really difficult to show their husbands much care and love like they initially do.
Their attention is divided and focused more on their kids.
Most men feel the lack of love and care and it forces them to cheat.
Smart women implore strategies to balance love even while kids are coming, just to keep their husbands.
Kids shouldn’t have all the care for you aren’t married to them but your husband. Strike a balance and save your marriage.
80% of women find it really difficult to look attractive even after marriage and child birth.
The bitter truth is that they know exactly what gets their husbands attracted but fail to do it. Do we call that greed or opening the window of cheating?
Women are too quick to forget married men remains prey to single ladies.
Yeah, it’s hard work to continuously look attractive to your husband, but it remains a necessary work to keep the man you love.
It’s one of the things people do for love.
It takes time to keep fit, especially after childbirth. What some men want to see is just your effort to keep fit and win them over again and again.
Your continuous effort to look good and sexy just for your husband minimizes the chances of him cheating.
After the day’s work, he finds himself running home to meet the sexiest lady on earth, his wife. He has just little time to hang around and no space for cheating for he’s pre-occupied mentally by your everyday dose of attraction.
The changes which come as a result of marriage and age are just so numerous.
Once a man marries out of genuine love, even when these changes in marriage such as child birth and aging strikes, he remains committed.
His level of self-control and tolerance are greatly raised by genuine love.
Are you wondering about how to know he truly loves you genuinely?
He sees beyond the physical and still wants only you.
Else, these changes can make him take a turn at some other lady.
How then can you help him stay committed without cheating?
Helping your man stay committed isn’t a big deal. You can hold on to this little guide.
It’s as simple as giving ears to the factors which triggers cheating in a man.
- Give him attention as much as he needs and pamper him like your baby not minding his size. His heart still needs it no matter how matured he looks.
- Respect his sexual urge.
- Marry one who loves you genuinely.
- Stay sexy and present yourself in different packages he love, so he doesn’t get enough to look elsewhere.
- Be unique and give him more reasons why he must never give cheating a shot.
What most women do, leading their husband into cheating
Until you understand what sex mean to men, don’t get married. If you must get married, do not deny your husband sex.
It’s more than you think or can imagine.
Denying your husband sex not minding what your reasons are, causes him emotional and mental injury. These injuries can change his character and pattern of thought faster than one can imagine.
You have no idea of how other ladies may be begging him for just a chance but he chooses you, hoping to have it all with you.
It’s a man’s world and woman of older generations understands it better than this generation.
Most women have even taken it as a habit to deny their husband sex at the slightest dispute.
The ball is always on your court, kick to whatever direction you choose.
The moment you start denying your husband sex, your wedding husband! Then you are sowing the seeds of cheating, molestation and violence.
The moment you fail to take proper care of him, he will seek it elsewhere for men can’t survive without being cared for.
Yeah, all married men want to feel care.
Permit me to tell you about a good woman from down Africa within the Igbo race, named Obikwelu Chioma.
Obikwelu Chioma goes to her husband every morning after her little play to cheer him up, makes a detailed enquire of what he would like to eat for the day.
She prepares her food based on the request and choice of her husband, making him feel so well placed like a king with a powerful kingdom.
Her strength in managing their home won her the title, “A CAPABLE WIFE AND HER HUSBAND PRIDE”.
She understand that for her husband growth both physically and mentally, he needs to be served good food both at the dinner and when it’s time for inter-house sport in bed.
Obikwelu Chioma since the day of her wedding has continued to care for her so much that his reign of kingship remained with her alone.
Even when it is assumed that most women nag a lot, no man on earth can cope with a nagging woman.
If you must nag, then do it sensibly.
Permit me to tell you about two wives married to Ilobi Eric.
Eric, after the day’s work came back home and on meeting his first wife Gemame Osunde, she immediately starts to complain after greeting her husband, Eric.
Her complains were sensible, more about their kids and Eric’s second wife Elo Mercy.
Eric struggled to pull through and while inside his house meet his second wife.
She greeted him…
Gave him a welcome peck and say, “I trust your day must be really stressful, it’s written all over you my love.
Let me help you with your suit, I already made you dinner and by the way, you must keep to the rules.
Walk majestically into the bathroom and take your bath. A bucket of warm water is ready for you there.
After that, dinner will be on the table waiting for you to devour it mercilessly”
Elo Mercy then leads him on.
And after dinner just when Eric is ready to hold conversations, she brings up complains about the kids and his second wife.
So then I ask you, which complain do you think Ilobi Eric will pay much of an attention to?
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