Are you surprised at the high rate of divorce in our world today, putting fears in the hearts of singles?
Have you been thinking about the various practices to embark on so you don’t fall into divorce?
When cards are played rightly, wining is expected.
I’m not going to be taking you through the causes of divorce directly, instead let’s look around the box and spot the reasons which bring about divorce.
Can divorce be avoided?
If you have that big question facing you right now, maybe because you wish to have a better marriage life, then this post is just for you.
Go crab a chilled drink, as you get ready to absorb the content of this post.
5 REASONS WHICH BRINGS ABOUT DIVORCE
-FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND THE BASICS OF LIFE
Looking closely at divorce, you will find out that a greater percentage of those divorced excluding that which occurred as a result of deceit in marriage was basically because parties involved have failed to understand the basics of life.
Life generally is filled with ups and downs, good times and bad times, and so is marriage.
More reason while the marriage vows contains these phrases “for better or worse”, “in health and in sickness”.
While jumping into marriage, it will be wise to come to a conclusion that it won’t be rosy always.
The good times will come, enjoy them well.
The bad times will come, endure them.
Running away (Divorce) during the bad times isn’t the best option.
Towards our journey to success, failure bruises us so hard. But the wise keep pushing and in the end success is achieved.
When you recognize the fact that marriage won’t be rosy always, then such knowledge will force you into;
-Trying to understand your partner better
-Help you boost forgiveness within your marriage
-And also help you have a firm grip on patience and hope.
Disappointments only comes where there expectations.
You don’t need to have an extremely high expectation about marriage or your partner. Instead, understand the fact that they are humans and aren’t perfect.
Sometimes, your expectations blur your mind of the not so attractive chapters marriage holds.
You would love and you would loathe…
You would want to be loved and you would want to be left alone…
You would have your “f**k this sh*t” moment, you would have your “peace out”…
You would have your “this would never happen to me in my father’s house” moment…
You would have your “marriage is not for me moment”…
You would have your “Genevieve is not married and she’s doing just fine moment”…
You would have your “I cannot kill myself” moment…
You would be broken…
You would be mended…
You would fall and you would rise…
Your partner won’t be perfect and can never be perfect.
-IGNORING THE GOD FACTOR
In marriage lies a mystery, where one plus one is equal to one and not two.
The coming together of two as one is a mystery, and as a result more spiritual than physical.
You can’t take out the spiritual aspect of marriage and expect such marriage not to head for divorce.
Since marriage like life itself is more spiritual than physical, winning in the spiritual aspect (that’s to say, involving God for grace) is simply the right track to take.
In today’s world, the God factor has been so much ignored in marriages and divorce has continued to rise.
-WRONG MINDSET BEFORE MARRIAGE
What kind of thoughts have you had before your marriage and even while in your marriage?
I hear people say often to themselves, “I will not tolerate him or her cheating”, “if he does this or if she does that, I will divorce”, “I can’t take shit from my wife”, “I won’t take shit from my husband” and the list goes on and on.
Such negative mindset calls in negative situations such as divorce.
A wise person goes into marriage with the mindset of making things work and having a picture of a lovely family.
Your thoughts are more powerful than you can imagine.
Feed your mind rightly and be considerate.
-FORGETTING CHANGES TAKES EFFECT
You must have heard change is the only constant factor in life.
Change comes both positively and negatively.
Funny enough, only few recognize the fact that change too hits marriages hard.
How prepared are you to face these changes when they come? Do you think things will be how they used to be forever?
Not just changes but a whole lot of changes.
A matured mind for marriage is one ready to manage changes as they come.
TO BE CONTINUED… STAY TUNED.
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