Relationship Rig Disclaimer

For some reason, a lot of people find this site and think I’m writing it solely for the money, that I’m selling something or trying to sign people up for some sinister and selfish purpose.

It is hard when you do have genuine motivations to know how to convey them.

Regular readers of Relationship Rig know that I’m not just in it for the ‘money’ – I share what I know as openly as possible. Every way I know to improve a blog’s performance goes onto the blog at some point or another – it’s all in my archives for free.

Having said this – I do ‘get’ things out of this blog (including money) and want to declare it up front in the hope that it might give you a more complete picture of my motivations for maintaining Relationship Rig.

So what do I get out of Relationship Rig?

I believe in being transparent with one’s blogging so as part of that I want to tell you what I gain from this blog up front. Here’s what I receive from Relationship Rig:

Money – Yes I do make a little money from this blog. You’ll see ads in different parts of the blog (sidebar, header, below posts) as well as some affiliate promotions.

I only promote affiliate programs that I believe in and that I think will be relevant to the readers of Relationship Rig.

I do not and have never linked to anyone in my posts in exchange for money or other incentives.

Profile – This blog has without a doubt lifted my profile in the blogging (and wider) community and relationship sphere. Talking about relationship gets a reaction out of people – for some, it’s positive, for others it’s not. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t hoping to build a profile through this blog. Whilst I’ll never be an expert in all aspects of blogging and relationship discuss I’m committed to learning whatever I can about how people relate behaviorally in relationships and in sharing what I do hope to carve out a niche for myself on the topic.

In doing so I do have the goals of writing a book and freeing up more time to do consulting work in this area. These of course are ways of making money so in a sense there is some financial gain to be made through this blog in the long term.

Satisfaction – I enjoy this blog. I enjoy writing the content and I enjoy meeting and helping readers. This is a genuine motivation for doing what I do here. People often ask me why I give my ‘secrets’ away for free – to be honest, I just can’t seem to keep them to myself – I like to help people.

What does this Blog Cost me?

If I’m being transparent about what I get out of this blog I feel I should also be transparent about what it costs me (it only seems fair).

Time – I spend more time writing posts for this blog than any of my others. The posts here are generally longer, better researched, and more thoughtful than my other blogs. Blogging is hard work most days – I put in longer hours than I’ve ever put into any other job.

Competitive Edge –Many of my readers (some of who I’ve given free personal coaching to) have started up better relationships. In direct competition with my blogs in addition to that some have used my designs, stolen content (I take action on this – thieves beware). To be honest I have mixed feelings about this. On one hand, I think it’s great and know that some of these blogs link back to my own blogs and have good working relationships with me. I don’t have a monopoly on any given topic and don’t want to stop anyone from starting any blog that they choose to – but at times I feel rather ripped off and used. I guess this is the downside of offering any service for free and I’m willing to accept that – it’s just some days it’s easier to accept than others in all honesty.

Personal Attack – This is all sounding rather heavy here and I don’t want to get too gloomy but another cost of this site is that at times the response that people have to my writing here is to attack.

Unfortunately, the internet can be a pretty impersonal medium and people feel they have the right to write things that they would probably not say to the face of a human being. I try to respond graciously to such emails, comments, and instant messaging interactions and don’t let them get to me too much – but at times it all gets a bit too much and takes its toll on me.


So blogging here has its.. benefits and costs. Some days I’m energized by it and couldn’t think of too much I’d rather do for a job – and other days I am tempted to close up shop because it seems to take more than it gives. In the long run though the good far outweighs the bad and I so I blog on.

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