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Magical Ways to do ‘Date Night’ when kids are home all the time (2020)|R-R

How to do date night when kids are home all the time – The last seven months have been different. And that’s putting it mildly.

Many of us have been trying to stay safe and therefore have been spending a lot of time at home – or outside during the nice weather.

Well, winter’s coming. The lazy days of summer are behind us for this year, and we’ll be complaining of cabin fever soon enough.

As parents, we have an even tougher time maintaining relationships and finding quiet time for ourselves while being at home with our children every day.

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So how do you manage date nights or self care time while the kids are constantly around? Let’s explore some ideas:

What to do with the kids…

This is very age-dependant. My girls are old enough to not need constant supervision, and too old to go to bed early.

If your kids are like mine, I would suggest simply explaining to them that you want some grown up time (date night time), and give them ideas of things to do. For us, it would be pjs and a movie, or ship them off to a fellow pod home for a sleepover. Heck, my girls would even play something online for a few hours if I let them. So for me, this isn’t a struggle.

But what if you have younger kids? How do you manage a date night then?

I know a babysitter may not be the right choice for you, but it is for some. Especially if you can find someone to “pod” with, that perhaps only babysits for you and doesn’t have a large circle elsewhere. This can be another adult, or a family member as well.​​​​​​​

You can also take advantage of nice days and have a sitter come and watch your kiddo play outside while you and your spouse enjoy a lunch date or similar.

If you have a pod with other parents, try kid-sharing. You watch all the kids one evening, and swap out for your turn for a date night. Sleepovers not required.

The trick right now is thinking outside the box.

So now that we’ve occupied the kids – what kind of “date night” should we have?

Simple evenings could be a movie or Netflix marathon, with take out, or popcorn. Cook a meal together and enjoy it with your drink of choice. Eat together without the kids, and have a real conversation.

Break out the board games, or a deck of cards. Pull out old photo albums and reminisce about the “old days.” Or investigate a new hobby together.

Get outside for a walk or bike around your neighbourhood. Or go for a drive to watch the sun set. Take in a movie if you feel comfortable doing such a thing. Bonus points if you can go during the day while the kids are at school and you can avoid needing to find care for them!

Sit outside in the evening around your fire pit – again, without kids. Nothing wrecks the mood more than hearing “can we get the marshmallows now?” every five minutes.

Date nights don’t have to be overly planned, or too involved. Especially now when it’s harder to get away. Find simple things you enjoy together, and make the time to do them.

And – this might be an unpopular opinion – I actually don’t mind spending “date nights” with my girls. Their attention spans are long enough to play games or go for decent walks, and they can be pretty fun to be around.

Don’t get me wrong, a break from your kids is always needed, but including them sometimes will help enrich your life, and theirs, with shared experiences and memories to treasure.​​​​​​​

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How Having A Child Changes New Parents Thought Of Fitness 2021|R-R

New parents thought of fitness today- For new parents, child birth changes their thought of fitness to a great extent.

“Eating our feelings” has been a running theme for many Canadians coping with mental health struggles brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. For many isolated teens however, eating too much or too little has become a constant source of stress.

Canadian helplines have seen a spike in calls related to disordered eating since March’s shutdowns: Teens are calling Kids Help Phone about food and their body image more than any other issue, CBC reports. Those who were previously in sports are especially at risk; sports nutritionist Jennifer Sygo told CTV News that many young athletes have turned to controlling what they eat, in the absence of their regimented lives.

This all falls in line with a recent U.S. academic review on adolescents, which found that the pandemic has worsened stressors linked to eating disorders: Depression, social isolation, money worries, trauma, and problems at home.

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If you’re worried about your teen’s eating and want to help them cope, here’s what you should know:

Eating could be their way of asserting control

The pandemic has greatly increased feelings of helplessness in our lives, which is a big factor when it comes to disordered eating and more severe eating disorders like anorexia. Aryel Maharaj of the National Eating Disorder Information Centre told CTV News that many teens calling the centre have described how controlling what they ate made them feel better.

“I guess I’m feeling out-of-control of life circumstances right now and eating, and weight, is what I can control,” was how Maharaj summed up the theme of their calls.

Some teens may also feel pressured to control their food intake because of online communities and pandemic weight gain jokes; a teenager interviewed by Good Morning America said jokes that gaining more pounds, or “the COVID 15,” led her to unfollow social media accounts.

Disordered eating isn’t always skipping meals

Psychology Today lists feeling anxiety over certain food groups, body dysmorphia, avoiding meal times, and obsessing over calories as possible signs.

ScaryMommy writer Clint Edwards notes that he’s seen his son over-eat more throughout the pandemic.

“Like, it feels like he eats 800 meals a day … [it] has me worried about how much of this is hunger, and how much of it is just him trying to gain control of what feels like an out-of-control life,” Edwards wrote.

Teens may also show signs through what they say. Adolescent medicine specialist Hina J. Talib told the Science Times that hearing phrases like “I am so fat” and “If I gain weight, I will be disgusting” said often should be taken seriously.

Anybody can be at risk

Parents might believe that their child’s eating habits aren’t a problem unless they’re underweight, but that’s untrue according to the National Eating Disorder Association. Young people of any weight, ethnicity, and gender are at risk, with long-term health consequences waiting for those who go untreated, according to a New York Times article.

“Without a proper diagnosis and intervention, young people with distorted eating behaviors can jeopardize their growth and long-term health and may even create a substance abuse problem,” the outlet reported.

It helps if kids feel less uncertain and alone

Mental wellness strategies like making self-care routines together and encouraging open conversations about feelings can help parents support teenagers who feel out of control.

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11 Ways You Could Be Hurting Your Kids’ Mental Health|R-R

You could be hurting your kids’ mental health without knowing it.

If you remove all of life’s unpleasantries, what are you really teaching your child about the world? Doing so will only result in giving your child a false sense of reality. Resilience, being able to get back up after you fall down, is what adults must instill in children. Allow your child to face uncomfortable circumstances even if it makes you uncomfortable. This will teach them about overcoming adversity.

What if you were doing something that was having a negative impact on your child’s mental health — you’d want to know, right?

Whether or not your child has a diagnosed mental health condition, we all have a state of mental health. Mental health has huge implications on everyday life impacting our response to stress, coping skills, interactions with others and how we manage emotions.

Here are 11 things that could be causing more harm than good when it comes to your child’s mental health.

1. Steering clear of things that elicit negative feelings for your child

If you remove all of life’s unpleasantries, what are you really teaching your child about the world? Doing so will only result in giving your child a false sense of reality. Resilience, being able to get back up after you fall down, is what adults must instill in children. Allow your child to face uncomfortable circumstances even if it makes you uncomfortable. This will teach them about overcoming adversity. This practice will enable your child to employ positive coping mechanisms to get through the situation.

2. Calling the school’s attendance line, again

Stop this right now. If your child is truly sick, either physically or mentally, get help. Call a doctor, therapist, counselor, psychologist, etc. and get a professional opinion. Allowing your child to stay home from school and sit idle all day can spur a vicious cycle of school avoidance. School work piles up and students return to academic demands which can further exacerbate feelings of anxiety and isolation. Only let your child stay home when they truly are not well enough for school. Make it a household rule that if kids stay home, they have to see a doctor or mental health professional.

3. Telling your child their negative feelings are irrational

Using logic to vanquish your child’s unpleasant emotions won’t work. However, the real key here is to give your child the opportunity to understand what triggers their difficult feelings. With this information, they can begin to challenge their irrational thoughts/fears. If your child seems to struggle with recurring irrational fears that pose a major hindrance to their life (school, friendships and/or family relationships), this may be reason to call on the experts for additional support. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is often utilized to treat Anxiety Disorders as it focuses heavily on understanding how behaviours, thoughts and feelings all work together.

4. Minimizing the reasons behind anxious emotions and other unpleasant emotions

Anxiety, for example, can certainly be debilitating, but some anxious feelings can serve as a catalyst for good. Talk to your child about how anxiety can alert us when we are in danger and may allow us to make decisions to keep ourselves safe. Discuss some of the positive implications of anxiety, worry and healthy stress. Like it or not, anxiety can be a motivating force. This helps your child better understand the spectrum of emotions they feel and the reasons behind such emotions.

5. Taking the words right out of your child’s mouth

Just because your child may be in a heightened emotional state, doesn’t mean you have to communicate for them, or try to guess what they are thinking or feeling. This applies even if you have a very good hunch as the parent. Allow your child to be self-expressive and identify what is going on with their feelings and emotional state. This also means not cutting your child off to interject. Just listen. Plus, talking is cathartic and allows them to draw their own insights and be introspective.

6. Telling them to suck it up and get over it

This very well may be what you are thinking and what you’d like to say, but don’t do it. Telling your child to get over it diminishes their feelings and doesn’t allow you as the parent a healthy dosage of compassion and empathy toward your child. Instead, focus on a time when your child overcame a similar hurdle and remind them of their inner strength and resilience.

7. Keeping your child so busy they don’t have time to think, about anything

The adolescent mind is fragile and gets overwhelmed easily. Be sure that you are not over-scheduling your teenager. Keeping your child busy won’t keep them from feeling negative emotions. Allowing your child to have a say in their social calendar (clubs, sports, social outings, etc.) is a good rule of thumb. A motivated child may want to engage in a lot of out of school activities, but as a parent it’s important to know your teenager’s limits. As teens take on more extra-curricular activities to earn a competitive edge, you may need to be the voice of reason that says: “That’s enough. You are good enough.”

8. Removing barriers to solve your child’s problems

There are some problems your child will face in which you will need to intervene. However, if you remove every impediment that stands in your kid’s way then your child won’t learn the skills to independently work through problems. Help your child brainstorm solutions to problems they are facing. Give your child a voice in coming up with tangible ways to tackle the issue they are facing.

9. Oversharing (TMI)

Your child shouldn’t be the person who you vent to about all the troubles that come your way. Exposing your child to adult-sized problems, like personal finances and marital strife, can overwhelm your kid. Reach out to a friend. And if your personal problems begin to interfere with your ability to parent then it might be time to link up with a professional counselor who has a professional skill-set in helping adults.

10. Being frazzled

Does this really require an explanation? Everything you do in life is being modeled for your child. Get your own emotions in check so your child doesn’t have to watch you work through a frazzled state. It’s OK to express some emotion and identify the reason behind your emotions, but be mindful of your behaviour in a heightened emotional state. Tap into your support network and employ those healthy coping skills. Do some yoga or try some deep breathing exercises. If you’re finding that you haven’t developed healthy coping mechanisms to manage your own anxiety and stress, then it may be wise to seek out your own professional mental health support. If your child is in need of mental health support, remain calm. Talk softly. Listen.

11. Assuming “not my kid”

Teens are multifaceted and have complex emotions that can make it difficult to know what they are thinking and feeling. Believe it or not, teens strive for parental approval. Teenagers may conceal how they are feeling so they won’t disappoint a parent or cause worry. Don’t ever think that your child is immune to a mental health issue or the risk of suicide. If someone shares a concern about your child, don’t take it lightly. Seek mental health support for your teenager immediately.

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How To Know What Formula Is Right For Your Baby? A Guide For New Parents

There are so many challenges that come with parenting, especially when you’re new to the sphere. One among them is how to know what formular is right for your baby.

When you’re a new parent, choosing the best baby formula for your newborn can be simple if you know what to look for.

And thankfully, trusted infant formula brands like Enfamil make it easy to educate yourself when you’re wondering, “How do I know what formula is right for my baby?”

It may have been hard enough making a decision around the breastfeeding vs. formula debate.

Whether breastfeeding was just too painful, your baby won’t latch on, or you have other reasons for choosing to bottle feed, no one takes this decision lightly. If you decided that breast milk is just not an option, we can help you find the type of formula that will be best for your baby.

If you decided that breast milk is just not an option, we can help you find the type of formula that will be best for your baby.

Believe it or not, breastfed babies and bottle fed babies aren’t all that different!

In partnership with Enfamil, we break down how to find the best infant formula for your newborn, the benefits of infant probiotics (and if your baby needs them,) and answer all of your baby formula questions.

Here’s how to figure out which formula is right for your baby.

When shopping for infant formula, there are a few key factors to consider.

Keep in mind that there are certain aspects that make up a quality formula as well as additional considerations to ensure you’re purchasing from a qualified baby formula company.

Choosing The Formula

1. The formula is similar to breastmilk.

There’s no doubt that breast milk is ideal for newborns. However, if you need to use an infant formula instead, choose something that’s inspired by breast milk.

Enfamil formula options, like Enfamil Enspire and Enfamil Enspire Gentlease (for babies having feeding issues,) are great options. They are designed to be inspired by breast milk, as they’re made with the following components:

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Lactoferrin: Key immune-supporting protein found in breast milk.

MFGM: Found in the fat of human milk and is shown to support cognitive development.

DHA: An omega-3 fatty acid found in breast milk.

2. The formula provides complete nutrition for babies.

Proper nutrition is key for infants to grow and thrive. Stick with a formula that has all of the necessary vitamins and minerals, and fatty acids that are important for brain and eye development. Keep an eye out for formula that has:

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  • Lactoferrin
  • MFGM
  • DHA
  • Choline
  • Vitamin D, C, and E

Formula that has iron, or iron formulas, can be beneficial to your baby as well, since iron helps infants with neurological development.

3. The formula is easy to digest.

It’s important to find a formula that can be easy to digest. Specialized formulas, like Enfamil Enspire Gentlease, are specifically created to ease gas, fussiness, and crying, and have easy to digest proteins.

4. The formula has been approved by your doctor.

Before choosing an infant formula, it’s always important to check with your doctor, especially if you’re worried that the baby could have allergies.

Options like soy based formulas may be problematic if your new baby has a soy allergy that makes them sensitive to soy protein.

An allergy to milk proteins is a possibility as well, so a soy formula, or hydrolyzed formula, could actually be a great option.

5. The formula is in the proper form (or your baby.

Baby formula comes in various forms, so you’ll need to choose the one that’s best for your infant. These forms are:

Powdered formula: This formula comes as a powder and is mixed with water to prepare for use.

Liquid concentrate formula: This type of formula will require you to mix with equal parts water and shake before using.

Ready-to-use formula: This type of formula is ready for the baby as is. You won’t need to measure or mix. It’s quick, easy, and isn’t as messy.

Choosing The Company

1. The company is tried and true.

Always buy baby formula from a company you can trust. Ideally, you’ll choose a company with a great track record, and who’s been around for many years.

Brands like Enfamil have been around since the 1900’s, and have garnered status as the #1 trusted brand for brain-building and immune support.

2. The company offers convenience.

What’s better than a quality baby formula for newborns? A company that offers convenience for new moms.

New moms are busy, and often stressed, so getting your formula delivered easily is ideal.

Brands like Enfamil offer a subscription service so you can have formula delivered to you automatically!

3. The company offers education.

New moms need a whole lot more than just formula. Brands like Enfamil offer tons of education that mothers can use to prepare themselves for their new baby. This education is continuing, as the site offers blog posts for moms to learn about how to feed their babies. They also have a hub of content covering feeding issues and how to deal with them, as well as an educational video series, “Ask The Experts.”

4. The company offers tools.

Interactive tools come in quite handy as well. They can offer education, convenience, and more. The Enfamil brand has tons of tools available to new moms.

5. The company’s formula is affordable.

The average baby formula price is around $0.19/ounce according to The Simple Dollar.

What’s the use of a quality baby formula if no one can afford it? Brands like Enfamil offer a low price guarantee:

“It’s our goal to provide you with a great price on your baby’s formula. If you find a lower price at another retailer (third party sellers excluded) please give us a call at 1-800-BABY123 and we will offer a discount to match or beat it.”

The brand also offers a Rewards program for loyal customers and a 10% discount for signing up for the subscription service. And, if you sign up for their newsletter, you’ll receive a 10% offer pop up for new customers.

What are infant probiotics (and does your baby need them)?

Baby probiotics are supplements that offer nutritional support for your infant.

They have a whole host of benefits, and can contribute to all around better health for your little one.

These probiotics come in a liquid form so you can just add a few drops to a spoon to feed your baby or drop them right into your baby’s bottle with their formula. Enfamil Infant Probiotics can even be bundled with their baby formula for an even bigger discount.

Benefits of probiotics for babies:

  • They can potentially balance out good bacteria in the body.
  • They can help with colic in infants.

*According to the American Family Physician

FAQs

Where can I find Enfamil infant formula coupons?

The Offer hub on the Enfamil website is a great place to find coupons and free samples of baby formula.

What are the side effects of feeding a baby formula?

In some circumstances, your baby may experience tummy pain, gas, or have trouble sleeping. If you notice your baby has diarrhea, vomiting, or is not gaining weight, be sure to get in touch with your doctor.

How do I serve a baby bottle to my newborn?

Make sure to wash your hands before getting started. Then, make sure to clean the baby bottle, prepare the formula, and warm up the baby bottle in a pot of hot (not boiling) water, only if your baby prefers the warmth. If not, stick with a cold or room temperature bottle.

Be sure to test the temperature on the inside of your wrist, and never warm your baby’s formula in a microwave.

How do I know what formula is right for my baby?

Always look for formula from a trusted brand when formula feeding. You’ll also want to try and find an infant formula that is close to breast milk. And most importantly, always talk to your baby’s doctor first about which formula is best for your baby.

What do I do if my baby isn’t tolerating the formula?

If your baby isn’t tolerating the formula, double check with your doctor to make sure there isn’t an allergy issue.

Some formulas may cause gas and tummy troubles, so you may need to switch to a formula that’s easier to digest. You can also call into the Enfamil call center to report this.

How do I switch baby formulas?

If you found that your baby is allergic to a formula, it’s best to switch immediately after consulting with their pediatrician.

You can try switching gradually as well, by mixing the formulas or supplementing with the new one. Enfamil offers a great formula comparison tool to help you out with this process. As always, talk to your pediatrician first.

How do you wean from breast to bottle?

This process is best done gradually so your baby has time to get used to it. It’s best to bottle feed when your baby is least interested or distracted, such as during the morning or mid-afternoon.

How long do babies stay on formula?

In general, you may want to wean your child off of formula after 12 months. However, this timeline may be different for everyone. Always check with your doctor.

Are probiotics safe for newborns?

Probiotics are generally safe for newborns. However, always check with your child’s doctor before introducing them into their diet.

Becoming a new mom can be intimidating, but if you’re armed with the right information and ongoing education, things can get a whole lot easier!

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COVID-19 – How To Have A Family Gathering When You’re Isolating|R-R

How possible is it to have a family gathering when you’re isolating as a result of COVID-19? It is very possible and exactlly what will be elaborated in this post.

Hope, though, is never lost. As much as this is a season of renewal, rebirth, and family, it’s also a season of resilience, and resilience means finding a way. Even if you need to be apart physically, it doesn’t mean the family can’t still come together — and all it takes is a WiFi connection.

Here are some suggestions on how to make sure that happens:

1. Adjust your expectations

“It’s important to recognize that the holidays this year are different, but they’re no less powerful,” Alexa Gilmour, a United Church minister in Toronto, told HuffPost Canada.

Acknowledging that Easter and Passover just won’t be the same will help you to manage your expectations, and might even help you get over your preemptive blues a little faster. It might be especially tough for kids to understand exactly what’s going on, too, so helping them to name their feelings and then to adjust their expectations is also a good idea. (Saying things like, “We’re doing things a little differently this year, just to be safe,” or, “It isn’t going to be the same, but we’ll still have a good time and we’ll make new traditions” might be a start, and then just be available to answer any questions they may have. )

2. Get creative with your tech

Sure, you can’t be with your whole family physically, but there’s nothing stopping you from being together virtually. There are plenty of interactive apps out there that offer video conferencing, but right now Zoom seems to be reigning supreme: it’s free, it accommodates up to 100 participants, and it has a breakout chat feature, too. With Zoom, you can prepare meals over video with your family, or even hold the entire dinner on camera so it feels like you’re still together.

“Our family is setting up a Zoom dinner, and we have tablecloths that look the same,” said Gilmour. “We’re going to set it up so it looks like our table is extended right into the other person’s home, just like a normal dinner.”

Many people are repurposing business-oriented video conferencing apps to create a sense of togetherness with their families for the holidays.
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3. Pull together a family cookbook or share online recipes

How on earth will you survive without grandma’s matzo ball soup, or your uncle’s classic glazed ham? Thankfully, there’s technology. You can appoint one family member to gather recipes into an online spreadsheet that everyone can access, like a little family cookbook. And if you can’t get something right, as you try a dish for the first time, you can always just make a video call and get some help.

“We’re also in the age of YouTube and instructional videos, so you can find just about anything you want to if you’re not sure of how to cook something,” Zane Caplansky, owner of Caplansky’s Deli, told HuffPost Canada. “It might be hard for you to get the ingredients for that gefilte fish, but there are always videos and Facebook groups that can help.

4. Consider a potluck

OK, so maybe you’re not the best chef. Maybe you don’t trust yourself with Grandma’s braised brisket recipe. Maybe Mom’s garlic smashed potatoes always turn out too garlicky when you do them. But it’s still possible for you to organize a contactless potluck, like a little family delivery service.

“My parents are going to make two of our favourite banana cakes with caramel icing and deliver one to our doorstep, so we’ll be eating some of the same food,” said Gilmour. “We’re still social distancing, so it’s OK. But this is a time when family recipes can invoke the familiar experience of being together, even when our bodies can’t.”

5. Don’t stress. Order takeout.

So you’re far from being the next Gordon Ramsay, and you don’t live close enough to your family for the whole potluck thing to work. That’s OK. Plenty of people across North America and around the world will be ordering in this holiday season. While lots of restaurants are closed, there are still resources available online if you want to order takeout.

“There are even Facebook groups where you can just ask, ‘Is anybody providing Passover meals?’ and find something there,” says Caplansky.

6. Think up an act of service

Holidays like Easter and Passover are great times, not just for feasting with family, but for giving back to the community. And in light of the pandemic, there are lots of people out there who need some help. Gilmour said this is when folks can start reconsider the meaning of family, and prioritize those in need by dropping off groceries or meals. It can be as simple, even, as giving your neighbour a call to make sure they’re doing alright.

“Maybe you haven’t lost your job at this time, and you’ve discovered you have some leftover income, because you aren’t going out as much,” said Gilmour. “That could be a gift to someone who needs it.”

If you're able to, offer to help deliver groceries to elderly folk who might not be able to go out to get ingredients for dinner.
If you’re able to, offer to help deliver groceries to elderly folk who might not be able to go out to get ingredients for dinner.

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3 Reasons Why Your Child Will Always Lie To You As A Parent|R-R

If you are planning on raising kids who do not lie, then you need to know the reasons why your child will always lie to you as a parent.

 Reasons Why Your Child Will Always Lie To You As A Parent

Bring up kids has always been one of the difficult tasks for couples. Children tend to react differently to a certain patterns of training adopted by their parents.

Lies in general, are been told by kids due to the following under-listed basic reasons;

Major Reasons Why Kids Lie

  1. Parents also lie

Most children are innocent and could sense lies better than adults.

Whenever you tell a lie or more to your kids (i call this an unnecessary lie because the parents await no punishment for telling the truth but yet lie), you have indirectly bargained with them to tell you lies also.

The fact remains that if they aren’t telling lies currently, they are indeed going to lie to you sometime in the nearer future.

Such lies parents tell their children to quench their distractive questions has a greater effect on them than as little thought by parents.

Take, for instance, a child planning to leave the parent’s presence to play with a friend against the wish of the parents, you did hear utterances like “masquerade (or something parents feel their kids are afraid of) will bite or catch you” from the parents.

Indirectly, they sow the seed of fear into the child’s life, when it is more than obvious that the so-called “masquerade” never existed.

Parents should know that it did be better to open up to kids at all times because it does more good than harm.

In this case, stated above, simple statements like “come back here” could solve the problem. Noting that whatever goes around comes around.

  1. Lack of Trust

Kids from the very onset, have great trust in their parents, that’s the reason why if you probably want to beat one of them, they did give you a simple statement like ” I will report you to my mum or dad” with backup confidence at heart that their parent can handle all situation.

But parents betray such trust.

Take for instance, when a child does something wrong in your absence as a parent, on returning you seek the consent of such child to tell you who actually did such things with a backup promise never to beat or whip whoever is guilty.

Immediately he or she accepts been guilty of such acts, parents beat them up ignoring their initial promise never to beat them when they speak the truth.

Am pleased to inform you that you just killed the trust they had in you and if probably you aren’t lucky, such trust might never be replaced for life.

Never think it has no effect because they are children but remember that they’re also conscious beings.

You did be surprised at another instance, that even when you catch them in the act of doing something wrong and you asked for inquiries, they are more likely to tell you a lie, reasons been that you have succeeded in making your kids prone to lies by betraying the fact that the truth sets one free.

  1. Relationship with Siblings/Friends

Most children may naturally want to tell the truth at all times but certainly when their siblings especially the older ones tell them to do the contrary, that they willingly do.

Except you’ve bought their trust.

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How To Quench stubbornness among children|R-R

As a fact-based on the reality of raising children, stubbornness is one of many negative characters possessed by children, which could be carefully dealt with.

Quenching stubbornness among children

Various methods adopted in the upbringing of children goes a long way to determine if sure negative characters stick to them or not. Sincerely speaking, it is expected that at least one child in a family is stubborn.

Naturally, at some point in children’s lives, there comes this tendency of being stubborn. While you strive as a parent to quench such characters, also have it at the back of your heart that your kid has attained a level of responsibility that he or she feels that their decisions and not that of someone else is best for them.

Such a sense of responsibility becomes a challenge to parents, as it demands you to always have a concrete reason why your decision supersedes that of your kids. You did have to prove that to them not minding the facts that they’re kids because their minds are beginning to install maturity.

Quenching stubbornness among children

Reasoning with your kids more intelligently and politely telling them why mum or dad’s choice overrules theirs builds confidence and trust wards have in their parents, thereby eliminating any tendency of arguments that could yield a further act of disobedience/stubbornness.

A flip from such a character as stubbornness in children requires a base root of the patient. If you did get a kid as stubborn as hell around you, as you strive to discipline them, you should put on a belt of patients around you. Your focus as a parent should be to ensure that as your kids grow the percentage of their stubbornness decreases.

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Quenching stubbornness among children could be handled following the under listed step/sequence

  • Considering involving God, since you have a serious problem to deal with.
  • Building the best relationship with your children.
  • Holding on to discipline. (learn about discipline from my article on “guiding your children to greatness)
  • Storming on patience.
  • Letting kids be, most times when they so wish to.

You’ve got a lot of work to do here as a parent, as most helpful tips as pertain to quenching stubbornness among kids are easier said than done.

I bet you, it’s never a big deal. You did be surprised that such a stubborn kid you’ve got today might probably turn to be your favorite kid tomorrow.

You’ve got the ball on your court dear. Get to work.

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5 Ways To Better Your Kids Towards Greatness|R-R

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Lots of mistakes have been undertaken by parents in raising children, which has led to a significant drop in the tendency of attaining greatness among children.

Children tend to do the unimaginable in a positive sense when been raised and guided in the proper way.

Taking a note from the Holy Scripture,

“Raise a child the way he or she should grow and when grown, they won’t depart from it”.

It is been advised to have a firm hold on children at an earlier stage but to our greatest surprise, only does who raise children for evil purposes have been able to utilize this great idea of catching them when they are young.

While trying to build a more rigid foundation of greatness for your children, you did need to play by the following basic rules:

  1. Shun Underestimation

Most parents while raising children tend to underestimate them a lot, owing to a negative thought they always put at the back of their minds as “they are still kids”. Such excuses at heart weaken the decisions of parents taking towards correcting the wrongs which their kids are involved in.

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Naturally, it is expected that parents relate to their kids as though they were adults. This helps in developing their minds quickly, making them feel a sense of responsibility earlier in life.

Such character in kids enables them to realize their capabilities quicker thus, stimulating a vision of the future in their hearts and minds without considering the fact that they are still kids.

  1. Discipline

Going by a common saying,

 “Spare the rod and spoil the child”

It is demanded of parents to discipline their wards when they do things wrong. This shouldn’t end at that as parents are expected to lay required and specific corrections to their children, with a recommendation of such correction to be done just after discipline them.

Don’t procrastinate such corrections.

Such characters in kids enable them to realize their capabilities quicker thus, stimulating a vision of the future in their hearts and minds without considering the fact that they are still kids.

Making out time to correct the wrongs of children is one of the most fundamental steps in discipline them.

Such corrections should be given using a polite tone, as it feels more like an encouragement to the kids.

Consolation completes the sequence of discipline.

After correcting them as parents, it is expected that you console them immediately after laying down your corrections to them, as this will enable your advice/corrections to be digested by their hearts and minds.

  1. Gods role

Recalling the most precious advice from the scripture as – putting God first in whatever we do, guiding children towards greatness can only be achieved if the scale of preference used in guiding them is headed by God.

The best thing a parent can do to his or her ward is to draw them closer to their maker as a fact remains that, the closer they are in a relationship with Him-the better chances they’ve got to be great.

  1. Exposures
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As simple as this may sound, it could be one of the difficult things to do.

Parents should ensure to expose their children to the various phases of life, ranging from lifestyle, exhibitions, sports, travel, etc.

All these go a long way in helping children identify their talents at an earlier stage.

The earlier they got to know their talents, the better and greater the chances of attaining greatness.

  1. Encouragements

As one with kids around, it will be bad of you if you can’t encourage them at the very onset. No matter how little what they’ve achieved may be, try as much as possible to encourage them at all times.

Such appreciation will forever build the zeal in them to increase their achievements without you knowing that.

Conclusion

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Sincerely speaking, lots of things are to be done in leading your wards towards greatness. If you can’t do all, I guess you could start from somewhere as a parent.

Try as much as possible to guide them, recall that you’re out to reap whatever you sow, so be encouraged and sow greatness in your kids’ life today.

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