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How Having A Child Changes New Parents Thought Of Fitness 2021|R-R

New parents thought of fitness today- For new parents, child birth changes their thought of fitness to a great extent.

“Eating our feelings” has been a running theme for many Canadians coping with mental health struggles brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. For many isolated teens however, eating too much or too little has become a constant source of stress.

Canadian helplines have seen a spike in calls related to disordered eating since March’s shutdowns: Teens are calling Kids Help Phone about food and their body image more than any other issue, CBC reports. Those who were previously in sports are especially at risk; sports nutritionist Jennifer Sygo told CTV News that many young athletes have turned to controlling what they eat, in the absence of their regimented lives.

This all falls in line with a recent U.S. academic review on adolescents, which found that the pandemic has worsened stressors linked to eating disorders: Depression, social isolation, money worries, trauma, and problems at home.

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If you’re worried about your teen’s eating and want to help them cope, here’s what you should know:

Eating could be their way of asserting control

The pandemic has greatly increased feelings of helplessness in our lives, which is a big factor when it comes to disordered eating and more severe eating disorders like anorexia. Aryel Maharaj of the National Eating Disorder Information Centre told CTV News that many teens calling the centre have described how controlling what they ate made them feel better.

“I guess I’m feeling out-of-control of life circumstances right now and eating, and weight, is what I can control,” was how Maharaj summed up the theme of their calls.

Some teens may also feel pressured to control their food intake because of online communities and pandemic weight gain jokes; a teenager interviewed by Good Morning America said jokes that gaining more pounds, or “the COVID 15,” led her to unfollow social media accounts.

Disordered eating isn’t always skipping meals

Psychology Today lists feeling anxiety over certain food groups, body dysmorphia, avoiding meal times, and obsessing over calories as possible signs.

ScaryMommy writer Clint Edwards notes that he’s seen his son over-eat more throughout the pandemic.

“Like, it feels like he eats 800 meals a day … [it] has me worried about how much of this is hunger, and how much of it is just him trying to gain control of what feels like an out-of-control life,” Edwards wrote.

Teens may also show signs through what they say. Adolescent medicine specialist Hina J. Talib told the Science Times that hearing phrases like “I am so fat” and “If I gain weight, I will be disgusting” said often should be taken seriously.

Anybody can be at risk

Parents might believe that their child’s eating habits aren’t a problem unless they’re underweight, but that’s untrue according to the National Eating Disorder Association. Young people of any weight, ethnicity, and gender are at risk, with long-term health consequences waiting for those who go untreated, according to a New York Times article.

“Without a proper diagnosis and intervention, young people with distorted eating behaviors can jeopardize their growth and long-term health and may even create a substance abuse problem,” the outlet reported.

It helps if kids feel less uncertain and alone

Mental wellness strategies like making self-care routines together and encouraging open conversations about feelings can help parents support teenagers who feel out of control.

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11 Ways You Could Be Hurting Your Kids’ Mental Health|R-R

You could be hurting your kids’ mental health without knowing it.

If you remove all of life’s unpleasantries, what are you really teaching your child about the world? Doing so will only result in giving your child a false sense of reality. Resilience, being able to get back up after you fall down, is what adults must instill in children. Allow your child to face uncomfortable circumstances even if it makes you uncomfortable. This will teach them about overcoming adversity.

What if you were doing something that was having a negative impact on your child’s mental health — you’d want to know, right?

Whether or not your child has a diagnosed mental health condition, we all have a state of mental health. Mental health has huge implications on everyday life impacting our response to stress, coping skills, interactions with others and how we manage emotions.

Here are 11 things that could be causing more harm than good when it comes to your child’s mental health.

1. Steering clear of things that elicit negative feelings for your child

If you remove all of life’s unpleasantries, what are you really teaching your child about the world? Doing so will only result in giving your child a false sense of reality. Resilience, being able to get back up after you fall down, is what adults must instill in children. Allow your child to face uncomfortable circumstances even if it makes you uncomfortable. This will teach them about overcoming adversity. This practice will enable your child to employ positive coping mechanisms to get through the situation.

2. Calling the school’s attendance line, again

Stop this right now. If your child is truly sick, either physically or mentally, get help. Call a doctor, therapist, counselor, psychologist, etc. and get a professional opinion. Allowing your child to stay home from school and sit idle all day can spur a vicious cycle of school avoidance. School work piles up and students return to academic demands which can further exacerbate feelings of anxiety and isolation. Only let your child stay home when they truly are not well enough for school. Make it a household rule that if kids stay home, they have to see a doctor or mental health professional.

3. Telling your child their negative feelings are irrational

Using logic to vanquish your child’s unpleasant emotions won’t work. However, the real key here is to give your child the opportunity to understand what triggers their difficult feelings. With this information, they can begin to challenge their irrational thoughts/fears. If your child seems to struggle with recurring irrational fears that pose a major hindrance to their life (school, friendships and/or family relationships), this may be reason to call on the experts for additional support. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is often utilized to treat Anxiety Disorders as it focuses heavily on understanding how behaviours, thoughts and feelings all work together.

4. Minimizing the reasons behind anxious emotions and other unpleasant emotions

Anxiety, for example, can certainly be debilitating, but some anxious feelings can serve as a catalyst for good. Talk to your child about how anxiety can alert us when we are in danger and may allow us to make decisions to keep ourselves safe. Discuss some of the positive implications of anxiety, worry and healthy stress. Like it or not, anxiety can be a motivating force. This helps your child better understand the spectrum of emotions they feel and the reasons behind such emotions.

5. Taking the words right out of your child’s mouth

Just because your child may be in a heightened emotional state, doesn’t mean you have to communicate for them, or try to guess what they are thinking or feeling. This applies even if you have a very good hunch as the parent. Allow your child to be self-expressive and identify what is going on with their feelings and emotional state. This also means not cutting your child off to interject. Just listen. Plus, talking is cathartic and allows them to draw their own insights and be introspective.

6. Telling them to suck it up and get over it

This very well may be what you are thinking and what you’d like to say, but don’t do it. Telling your child to get over it diminishes their feelings and doesn’t allow you as the parent a healthy dosage of compassion and empathy toward your child. Instead, focus on a time when your child overcame a similar hurdle and remind them of their inner strength and resilience.

7. Keeping your child so busy they don’t have time to think, about anything

The adolescent mind is fragile and gets overwhelmed easily. Be sure that you are not over-scheduling your teenager. Keeping your child busy won’t keep them from feeling negative emotions. Allowing your child to have a say in their social calendar (clubs, sports, social outings, etc.) is a good rule of thumb. A motivated child may want to engage in a lot of out of school activities, but as a parent it’s important to know your teenager’s limits. As teens take on more extra-curricular activities to earn a competitive edge, you may need to be the voice of reason that says: “That’s enough. You are good enough.”

8. Removing barriers to solve your child’s problems

There are some problems your child will face in which you will need to intervene. However, if you remove every impediment that stands in your kid’s way then your child won’t learn the skills to independently work through problems. Help your child brainstorm solutions to problems they are facing. Give your child a voice in coming up with tangible ways to tackle the issue they are facing.

9. Oversharing (TMI)

Your child shouldn’t be the person who you vent to about all the troubles that come your way. Exposing your child to adult-sized problems, like personal finances and marital strife, can overwhelm your kid. Reach out to a friend. And if your personal problems begin to interfere with your ability to parent then it might be time to link up with a professional counselor who has a professional skill-set in helping adults.

10. Being frazzled

Does this really require an explanation? Everything you do in life is being modeled for your child. Get your own emotions in check so your child doesn’t have to watch you work through a frazzled state. It’s OK to express some emotion and identify the reason behind your emotions, but be mindful of your behaviour in a heightened emotional state. Tap into your support network and employ those healthy coping skills. Do some yoga or try some deep breathing exercises. If you’re finding that you haven’t developed healthy coping mechanisms to manage your own anxiety and stress, then it may be wise to seek out your own professional mental health support. If your child is in need of mental health support, remain calm. Talk softly. Listen.

11. Assuming “not my kid”

Teens are multifaceted and have complex emotions that can make it difficult to know what they are thinking and feeling. Believe it or not, teens strive for parental approval. Teenagers may conceal how they are feeling so they won’t disappoint a parent or cause worry. Don’t ever think that your child is immune to a mental health issue or the risk of suicide. If someone shares a concern about your child, don’t take it lightly. Seek mental health support for your teenager immediately.

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4 Best Places to Visit in Montreal If You Have Tweens|R-R

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Spicing life with your tween can really be nice. this post reveals 4 best places to visit in Montreal if you have tweens.

Montreal is one of the most popular tourist destinations in Canada. The primary language you’ll hear is French, though English is widely accepted. Montreal has a long list of tourist attractions. Luckily, many of these attractions are sure to entertain those of us with tweens. Below are some of the best places to visit in Montreal for parents with kids this age.

Zip Along the Old Port

If your family is into adventurous excursions, you should consider taking a ride on the zipline in the Old Port of Montreal. This zipline is a first in Canada. You climb up an 85 foot-tall tower and then get geared up for an exhilarating zipline experience. This activity sends you on a 1,200-foot zipline that allows you to soak in the spectacular views of Montreal. 

The cool thing about this zipline is that two people can do it side by side. It only takes 30 minutes to complete, and it should appeal to thrill-seekers of all ages. It’s a safe, family-friendly activity, and you’ll receive a complimentary photo of your adventure as a souvenir. 

Meet the Animals at the Biodome

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I think we can agree that regardless of one’s age – animals are always a big hit. The Montreal Biodome incorporates an indoor replica of our natural world. You can walk through various biospheres and check out the different species that live within each dome.

Some of the habitats you can expect to encounter are a tropical rainforest, an Arctic polar area, the Laurentian forest, as well as the St Lawrence marine ecosystem. You can view over 300 animal species at the Biodome, along with 750 plant species. Some fascinating animals to look out for include lynxes, beavers, and penguins, as well as various types of birds. 

The Biodome is a decent size, and full of new views, so it shouldn’t bore your tweens too quickly! If you need a vehicle to get around, you should think about hiring one. Globe Car & Truck Rental mentions how easy it is to rent a car in 2 minutes in the city. 

Interested in other animal attractions? We love the Toronto Zoo! ~J

Experience the Thrill at La Ronde Amusement Park

We know that kids adore amusement parks. So, make sure you visit this exciting landmark on your Montreal trip. The La Ronde amusement park forms part of Six Flags and sits on a small island named Île Sainte-Hélène, near downtown Montreal. 

La Ronde features roller coasters for daredevils of all ages. There’s the intense Slingshot ride, which throws you a whopping 245 feet into the sky. There’s also the Vampire that’s a roller coaster that goes backward. 

For the more timid tweens, there’s plenty of low-key rides as well. The ever-popular bumper cars and Ferris wheel are available as well, which makes for an all-round family experience.

Attend a Festival

Montreal is known as a city of festivals. If you can only choose one, then take your family on an outing to the Cirque du Soleil for an unforgettable show. The Cirque du Soleil was born in Montreal and continues to set the bar for the art scene. 

Family members of all ages will be awed by the incredible acrobatics, choreography, and showstopping stunts of this sensational show. If you happen to visit Montreal in July, expect all the stops. July is when the city hosts its annual Montreal Cirque Festival, an international event that focuses on circus performances. You can view up to seven other touring circus acts from well-known companies like Cirque Cavalia, Cirque Corteo, and Cirque Eloize.

Conclusion

While it may be tough traveling the world with unpredictable tweens, it’s not impossible. Make sure you do your homework before visiting new cities and set up a precise itinerary to accommodate all your family members. Try your best to visit the best places in Montreal when you get the chance!

Ashley Lipman is an award-winning writer who discovered her passion for providing knowledge to readers worldwide on topics closest to her heart – all things digital. Since her first high school award in Creative Writing, she continues to deliver awesome content through various niches touching the digital sphere.

I have not yet taken the girls on a tourist trip to Montreal. We fly out of the airport there for our vacations, but I think they are old enough now to appreciate the history of the Old Port, and walk for ages (which it what I love doing when visiting cities.)

What is your favourite tourist spot in Montreal – with or without tweens? We’re starting a bucket list of places to visit, and what to do there, so leave your suggestions in the comments!

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How to Survive Travelling with Kids and Tweens|R-R

Travelling with kids can really be much of a big deal, teens too can make it also stressful. Here is how you can survive travelling with kids and tween

As a family, we do a lot of car travelling.  Sometimes long distances, usually only an hour or two at a time.  But no matter how much time you spend traveling with kids, you will inevitably hear, “Are we there yet?!?”

I’m here to tell you that there are some ways you can (hopefully) keep your kids entertained while travelling.  And I don’t just mean by giving them a screen, or using the DVD player in your car.  (Do they still put DVD players in cars?  We’ve never had one…)

Survive travelling with kids

Our longest trip so far has been on the Amtrak, traveling from Syracuse, NY to Orlando, Florida.  We drove to Syracuse (2 hours or so), spent the night, then boarded a train and just went for 30 hours, give or take.  Then we did it all again coming back.  That was a LONG trip, but we survived.  The neat thing about the train is it stops here and there and you can get out, stretch your legs, and look around at different scenery for a few minutes.

I enjoyed the train, but it’s not great for sleeping, and the way home seems a lot less exciting than the way there…

Check out these easy ways to survive traveling with kids and tweens

Planning

This one is easily geared to your child’s age.  We love to talk about our travels.  My kids like to know how long we’ll be in the car, what they can bring to play with, and what’s at the other end.  Being 7 and 9 they can pretty well pack a travel bag for what they need for the entire trip. (I’m still in charge of clothes and toiletries.)  Some parts of that bag will be car-friendly, and some won’t.  But often this level of planning helps them stay interested in the trip.

Something we haven’t done because we haven’t travelled more than 4 or 5 hours from home by car is making, or using, a map.  Letting the kids “trace” their way along and read about, or draw in, cool things they see along the way.  Historical plaques, wildlife, even rest stops that have something interesting about them can all be inspiration for a drawing or small story.  You could make your own map, print out something from Google Maps or give it a search on Pinterest and see if anyone else has taken a similar trip and borrow some of their ideas.

Music

My favourite part of being in the car is listening to music.  My husband doesn’t mind music, but when travelling gets rough, or the kids get out of hand, the music is the first thing to go.  If you’re likely to enjoy music together, make a playlist to take with you.  There’s something about singing together as a family that makes life more fun.

Ways to Survive Travelling with Kids and Tweens

When I was growing up my sister and I shared a walkman and had 2 pairs of headphones with a Y adapter.  We eventually graduated to a discman each, so we didn’t have to listen to the same thing.  But either way Mom and Dad didn’t have to listen to our fun pop music.  And Alison and I learned to share and compromise on music.  Now my girls and I share close enough music tastes that we just turn up the radio and sing along together!

Motion Sickness

I don’t know about your family, but we get some motion sickness sometimes.  That means no reading in the back seat, and making sure everyone can see out the windows well.  Sometimes that requires staying in a booster seat for longer than legally required, so the kids can see out well enough to keep the vestibular system working properly.  We have 2 backless booster seats that work well for the girls.  And they’re easily movable if someone else wants to take them somewhere in a different car.  I still suffer from motion sickness sometimes – especially when I’m trying to use my phone in the car.  I have to put it away, keep my head up, and take some deep breaths.

We always keep some plastic bags in the backseat of the car. (I once used a Ziploc baggie when we were in Mexico – Rose wasn’t feeling well on the bus from the resort back to the airport and somehow I had a baggie in my bag.  I was never so thankful for random baggies in my life!)  My car has pouches on the back of the front seats.  I grab more heavy-duty grocery bags (usually the ones you have to pay 5¢ for in the store), check that they don’t have holes, then stick 2 in the back of each seat.  I’m very glad that my girls almost always know when they’re going to be sick now.  Saves a lot of disgusting cleanups!

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Sleep

If you are travelling long distances, sleep is your friend.  My girls will sleep in the car – and that’s when we enjoy the quiet, or change the radio station to something we (the parents) enjoy.  When we took that long train trip, we slept overnight on the train.  We didn’t bring pillows, so the kids balled up our raincoats and did their best to get some shut eye.  It worked out okay, but that was not the best night’s sleep for any of us.

We did take our toothbrushes and toiletries in our “carry on” bag – a great tip for travelling long distances.  Even if you’re in the car, sometimes having them accessible for after meals or late night travelling when you’d like your kids to get some serious sleep on the journey is a time saver. 

Car games

We have a small arsenal of “car games” we play on all our road trips.  When the girls were learning letters and how to read we’d play the Alphabet Sign game: Starting with A, find a word on a sign that starts with each letter in the alphabet.  This gets tricky at Q, X, and Z (depending on where you’re traveling, of course!)  We still play this, it’s great for sounding out new words for my younger daughter.

We also play a Cow Game – but this one has ever changing rules.  You gain points for cows on your side of the car, and lose all your points when you pass a cemetery.  The catch is that the people on the other side of the car have to see your cemetery in order for it to count.  So if you see a cemetery don’t point it out – but keep watch for ones on the other side!  This game can be adapted – cows are our mainstay, but we also count horses and other farm animals.  If you see something more rare (deer, swans, other wildlife) you can decide how many cows they’re worth.  Right now we’re making a notebook with some better “rules” for the cow game so there’s less squabbling in the back seat.

If you don’t have to deal with motion sickness in your family (lucky!) you can buy magnetic games like checkers, get a lap desk and let them colour or draw, or even let them read.  We can’t do any of these, but I know there are people out there who can!

Get talking

For Rose, this is easy.  She talks non-stop, so get her started on something and you can just listen for hours.  She does need some reassurance that you’re listening, but ask a question here and there and she’ll talk your ear off.  Emma is more quiet so you need to ask pointed questions to get her talking.  A trick is to play a progressive story game.  Come up with an idea, and then go around the car having everyone make up the next part of the story.  It’s good if your kids get a bit silly with this.  (Maybe they’ll get so involved they won’t notice that you quietly stopped playing!)

Being “trapped” in the car is also a good way to talk to your kids where they have no choice but to listen to you.  Use this time wisely (ie don’t go on too long about your subject of choice.)  You can broach puberty or peer pressure topics, ask them how school is going – for real – or bring up other family stuff that you’ve been putting off talking about.  Just make sure you follow up these “heavy” talks with fun games or favourite radio stations so it doesn’t feel so serious in the car!

I’m sure there are a lot more ways to help you survive travelling with kids and tweens.  These are just the things I do as a (sometimes) travel mom.  I actually do a lot of these every time we’re in the car.  Even if we’re just driving to dance class or across town I will use the captive moments to try to connect with my kids – or let them connect with each other.  

Here are a few of my other travel posts:

What do you do when travelling with your kids?  Anything I totally forgot or neat things I didn’t think of?  Share them with me in the comments!  And enjoying travelling with your kids – it can be great fun for everyone.

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How To Suck A Penis The Right Way And Up Your Game Today|R-R

Learning gets us improved, especially in areas where many have failed, like how to suck a penis to give your man an amazing blowjob.

If you want to know how to suck a penis the right way, get ready. I’m about to teach you how to give a man amazing head using the following easy blowjob tips and techniques

You’ll be surprised at just how easy it is to give your man the best blowjob ever by trying just a few simple things.

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Here are 7 tips on how to suck a penis and give amazing head for the best blowjob of his life.

1. Start by practice on something phallic-shaped.

It’s completely normal to feel nervous if you’ve never sucked your man’s penis before. Don’t worry about that.

A great way to deal with your nerves and get rid of them for good is to practice first. Not on your man, but on something similar, like a banana or even a small cucumber.

By practicing, you can experiment and do things properly first. This way you will be much more relaxed and at ease when you do start giving a blowjob.

2. Use lots of saliva.

When learning how to give a blowjob, the more saliva you use, the better. It acts as a lubricant and will make the blowjob feel way smoother and enjoyable for him.

You may think that more saliva will make it seem sloppy and even a little messy. The funny thing is that this will make it seem messy and sloppy to you, but your man won’t particularly care as it will feel so good.

A great way to produce more saliva is to have a piece of chewing gum or even a piece of candy right before you go down on him.

3. Lick his penis as you go.

When you first start learning how to give a blowjob, you might immediately think about taking his penis into your mouth. This is fine, but it’s far more powerful to slowly build up to this point by building anticipation in a fun and enjoyable way for him.

Start by grabbing his penis and slowly licking it with your tongue from the base to the tip and then back down again.

The slower you lick, the better. When you get to the head of his penis, pay lots of attention to it as it’s the most pleasurable part of his penis to have stimulated.

4. Kiss it, too.

Instead of constantly licking your man’s penis, you can also kiss it. This is great for giving your tongue a break as well as introducing some variation into your blowjob.

Again, you’ll find that kissing the head of his penis provides him with the most pleasure. Feeling wet lips kiss his penis is going to feel far more pleasurable than if your lips are dry, so try using some saliva when you start kissing it.

5. Blow air on it.

Blowing air on your man’s penis is an interesting technique to use when learning how to give a blowjob. It’s a surprisingly powerful technique as it’s usually so unexpected.

When you have been giving blowjobs and there is a lot of saliva on it, if you blow on it, your man will experience an intense cooling feeling. He will most likely never have experienced this before, making it a welcome surprise for him. It will also give you a little break from sucking, licking or kissing his penis.

If you want to know what it feels like for your man, try licking your own finger and covering it with some saliva, then blowing on it. Notice the slight cooling feeling? This feels 20 times as intense on for your man on his penis.

6. Try “The Bob” technique.

The Bob is the classic way to give a blowjob.

To perform it, you need to take his penis into your mouth and wrap your lips around it so that no air can get in or out. Next, you just need to “bob” your head up and down, taking his penis into and out of your mouth.

When performing The Bob, you don’t need to take him all the way in like you would when deep throating, only about 1 to 2 inches.

Remember, it’s the tip of his penis that is the most sensitive anyway.

7. Then, try “The Triumvirate” method.

The Triumvirate is the most powerful thing you can do to your man when learning how to give a blowjob. It’s like oral sex dynamite. To do the Triumvirate with your man, you are going to need to do 3 things at once.

The first is performing The Bob on your man with your mouth. While performing The Bob with your mouth, you are going to use one hand to grab his penis and start giving him a handjob at the same time. Just wrap your hand around it and start stroking up and down.

With your other hand, you are going to be massaging his testicles. You need to cup them gently in your hand and slowly massage them between your fingers. Remember to be extra gentle with them as they are quite sensitive.

When you do all 3 parts of The Triumvirate at the same time, your man is going to have a really massive orgasm.

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Why Do Nipples Get Hard?|R-R

It time to know the science behind the phenomenon – why nipples get hard?

They get hard when we’re aroused and touched the right way. They also get hard when it’s cold, or when you just get out of the shower and the wind blows past you. They are sensitive, and everyone has ones that are slightly different from the next person.

Nipples, people. I’m talking about nipples. 

Why do nipples get hard?

Every human being is born with them, and yet they are so strange in so many ways. Perhaps the strangest thing about them is the fact that they tend to get hard from a variety of different stimuli. Most often, they harden up when they are exposed to cold, or when you’re sexually aroused.

Logically speaking, there’s not really an obvious reason as to why nipples would get hard.

So, what gives? Believe it or not, scientists have been researching the answer to this question for quite some time.

Here’s what they found out.

Why do nipples get hard?

The answer lies in the tissue and makeup of your nipples.

Nipples, like any other part of the human body, have nerve endings. These nerve endings are the very things that allow us to sense touch, or that tell our bodies to flex our muscles. Around our nipples, the nerve endings are ones that pick up on both physical and psychological stimuli.

So far, so normal, right?

Research has shown that the nerve endings present in our nipples are identical to the same nerve endings that give us the “hair standing on end” feeling. One scientist by the name of Alessando Furlan explained, “…One thing we found was that goosebumps and nipple erection are caused by neurons that are specialized to regulate these functions by controlling the erectile muscles in these tissues.”

Many of the nerve endings found in nipples and the surrounding areas are from the sympathetic nervous system, the part of your nervous system that literally shows physical responses to emotional triggers. 

Things like having your hair stand on end from fear, having sweaty palms on a date, and even getting that “dry throat” feeling are all controlled by this part of the nervous system.

Surprisingly, our bodies have specialized nerve endings that tell our nipples to harden when confronted with certain stimuli. These nerve endings are part of our sympathetic nervous system, too.

The way our bodies are wired, our nipples naturally react to arousal by hardening. It’s an emotionally-triggered response, and it’s one that we can’t control any more than sweaty palms or blushing.

We’re not quite sure why this happens, but it’s possible that it has something to do with a woman’s ability to breastfeed children once they get pregnant.

When women breastfeed, nipples also end up hardening as a way to help babies latch on to the new supply of milk. Babies that are breastfed from nipples that can’t harden up often won’t be able to latch on as easily.

Though this is currently the biggest theory of the “why,” it’s important to point out that we still don’t know why the human body involves hardened nipples as a sign of arousal. Could it be a weird “crossed wires” thing?

Perhaps, but it could also be a way for our bodies to indicate that we’re turned on to our partners.

Why do nipples get hard?

One thing to point out is that nipples also harden as a symptom of hormone-related issues in women.

There’s definitely a hormonal element to the mystery. Many women who are pregnant, menopausal, or even going through puberty tend to have nipples spontaneously become erect. The fluctuations that happen could be triggering a nervous response that science isn’t fully aware of yet.

So, what about the cold?

Oddly enough, the cold reaction isn’t fully understood by scientists, either. The current theory suggests that our nipples get erect due to hair follicles underneath and around the nipples’ surface.

When we’re cold, our hair stands on end as a way to trap warmth close to our skin. If this theory holds true, then the reason our nipples harden during the colder seasons is for the same reason. It’s a body’s way of trying to keep warmth inside rather than outside.

Moreover, areolas are a smooth muscle that is also wired to contract when stimulated through both temperature and touch. This can give a similar “hardened” appearance as well.

That being said, this trait seems to be one that no longer serves an evolutionary purpose. So, while it may have helped our ancestors in the past, there’s no sign that these traits are needed for anything other than causing embarrassing moments during winter.

Basically, we know the “how” behind the mystery, but not the “why.”

Right now, science doesn’t fully know the answer to the question “Why do nipples get hard?” especially during arousal, or what causes them to react to cold.

We do know a lot about the nervous system and how it plays into making our nipples get hard during times when there’s a lot of stimulation going on. However, the “why” of the question remains to be fully explained.

While we do have some pretty good running theories, we don’t entirely know why humans evolved this trait. That being said, it’s not a bad thing; it’s just another quirk of the human body.

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10 Lies Told To Young Girls About Sex|R-R

Lies flies around the world, and many have been told to young girls about sex.

When I look back on the favorite steamy movies of my youth, there wasn’t much actual sex in them. There was romance, passion, dreaminess, and fantasy, but not a lot of action.

So it doesn’t surprise me that my sexual encounters came up confusing once I became active.

Another thing that doesn’t surprise me is the conflicting schizophrenic arguments in my head over whether I was a slut or pristine, whether I was entitled to have sexual awareness, urges, and desires, and do something about them, or whether I was supposed to be a chaste waits-for-marriage kind of gal.

I grew up in the post-sexual revolution of girls thinking they could do and be anything, except boys didn’t quite catch up with that thinking. It made for a lot of unbalanced relationships and colored our images of ourselves.

This is why learning how to teach your daughter about sex is important. And I hope I’m teaching my daughters to be realistic about sex.

My girls are too young yet to have really in-depth talks about how to navigate their sexuality. But what I’ve said all along is that it’s best when sex is in a long-term, loving, committed relationship. And it’s even better when it’s a lifetime-guarantee kind of thing like marriage.

How to Talk to Your Daughter About Sex: 10 Lies To Stop Telling

10 Lies Told To Young Girls About Sex

It surprised me to say this, given my own adolescent activities, but looking back from my 40-something perch, I wish I hadn’t played around nearly as much. It’s much better now with the one partner I love the most and have the most fun with.

So here are the top 10 lies we must stop telling girls about sex, and how to talk to your daughter about it.

1. You have to do it in high school.

Really, what’s the rush? When I look at my tweens and teens, I see really young kids still. Even though bodies are changing, they’re more innocent than we think.

The other day, I saw a kid at a restaurant with a “F*** Everyone” cap on and several piercings; he ordered chocolate milk and drank it through a straw. There’s no rush to become an adult and take on all the complications that come with it.

2. It only matters who else is doing it, whether you’re too soon, too late, or too anything.

I know I cared what people thought when I was their age, but this much? It doesn’t matter what other people are doing, and even when they say they’re doing it, they’re often not.

Stop listening. Look within. You’ll know when you’re ready. And if you don’t know, you’re not ready.

3. You have to do it, period.

10 Lies Told To Young Girls About Sex

It’s a funny thing to say, but I’ve come to realize that there are many types of sexualities out there. Some people are really into sex, which is OK; most of us didn’t get that message growing up. There are people who just aren’t into sex, and that’s OK, too.

While I was thrilled to meet my second husband and finally fulfill my dreams of frequent, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, I know someone who’s truly content with once a week. It’s OK if you just don’t want it. And maybe when you find the right person, the sexual compatibility will change your perspective.

4. You should only do it when you’re married.

Sex is a physical act that has nothing to do with marriage. We’ve created that notion in our society and put it into a neat little box (no pun intended), which affects our perspectives.

The reality is that physical and emotional are two different things. Sure, sometimes we combine them, but let’s see it for what it is. Sometimes a raw night is all you want, no strings attached.

5. You should only do it when you’re in love.

The thing is, sex really is special when you’re in love, and it’s best in a long-term committed relationship when you know you’re not going to be left high-and-dry the next morning.

So when you’re having sex with someone who’s never going to leave, and who loves you as much as you love him, it’s a really different thing. Why waste it on just-someone who doesn’t mean much to you and whose name you’re likely not to remember in 10 years?

6. It’s only OK to say, “No.”

We teach girls to say no, but do we teach them to say yes? 

This is the game we play in the bedroom: guy makes the move, guy orchestrates the setting, guy initiates all the foreplay, guy comes equipped with birth control, girl lies there and receives.

Sorry, you’re going to have to be a better partner than that. Sex is so much better when you’re an active participant. Say no when you’re not interested, but say a very vocal yes when you are. And don’t feel bad about it.

7. You should value yourself by the quality of your sexual encounters.

Sometimes when you hype it up and anticipate it, it’s a let-down. That’s true for any long-anticipated act.

When it comes to sex, sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s OK, sometimes it sucks. So be it. There are a lot of factors that go into making sex good. The quality of your character or attractiveness has nothing to do with it.

8. You have to know anything at all about the bedroom.

Never done it? No worries. Some of the greatest sex comes out of exploration. Let go and let loose. See what happens.

9. You should know everything and not expect the guy to know it for you.

When you’re dependent on a guy for your own pleasure, you’re at a serious disadvantage.

Girls need to figure out what turns them on and turn them off on their own, so when they finally come together with the right person, they’re architects of their own satisfaction.

Just like we teach girls that they must rely on no one else to get them through life, so it goes in the bedroom. Be the mistress of your own destiny.

10. You have to figure out how to not be emotional.

Girls are, by nature, emotional and attached when there’s sex involved. That’s just the way it is.

So, if sex is going to mess with your mind and distort your vision of a situation or relationship, don’t do it. There’s plenty of time to get it right; don’t waste your time getting it wrong.

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How To Know What Formula Is Right For Your Baby? A Guide For New Parents

There are so many challenges that come with parenting, especially when you’re new to the sphere. One among them is how to know what formular is right for your baby.

When you’re a new parent, choosing the best baby formula for your newborn can be simple if you know what to look for.

And thankfully, trusted infant formula brands like Enfamil make it easy to educate yourself when you’re wondering, “How do I know what formula is right for my baby?”

It may have been hard enough making a decision around the breastfeeding vs. formula debate.

Whether breastfeeding was just too painful, your baby won’t latch on, or you have other reasons for choosing to bottle feed, no one takes this decision lightly. If you decided that breast milk is just not an option, we can help you find the type of formula that will be best for your baby.

If you decided that breast milk is just not an option, we can help you find the type of formula that will be best for your baby.

Believe it or not, breastfed babies and bottle fed babies aren’t all that different!

In partnership with Enfamil, we break down how to find the best infant formula for your newborn, the benefits of infant probiotics (and if your baby needs them,) and answer all of your baby formula questions.

Here’s how to figure out which formula is right for your baby.

When shopping for infant formula, there are a few key factors to consider.

Keep in mind that there are certain aspects that make up a quality formula as well as additional considerations to ensure you’re purchasing from a qualified baby formula company.

Choosing The Formula

1. The formula is similar to breastmilk.

There’s no doubt that breast milk is ideal for newborns. However, if you need to use an infant formula instead, choose something that’s inspired by breast milk.

Enfamil formula options, like Enfamil Enspire and Enfamil Enspire Gentlease (for babies having feeding issues,) are great options. They are designed to be inspired by breast milk, as they’re made with the following components:

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Lactoferrin: Key immune-supporting protein found in breast milk.

MFGM: Found in the fat of human milk and is shown to support cognitive development.

DHA: An omega-3 fatty acid found in breast milk.

2. The formula provides complete nutrition for babies.

Proper nutrition is key for infants to grow and thrive. Stick with a formula that has all of the necessary vitamins and minerals, and fatty acids that are important for brain and eye development. Keep an eye out for formula that has:

Enfamil Ensipre vitamins, minerals and fatty acids
  • Lactoferrin
  • MFGM
  • DHA
  • Choline
  • Vitamin D, C, and E

Formula that has iron, or iron formulas, can be beneficial to your baby as well, since iron helps infants with neurological development.

3. The formula is easy to digest.

It’s important to find a formula that can be easy to digest. Specialized formulas, like Enfamil Enspire Gentlease, are specifically created to ease gas, fussiness, and crying, and have easy to digest proteins.

4. The formula has been approved by your doctor.

Before choosing an infant formula, it’s always important to check with your doctor, especially if you’re worried that the baby could have allergies.

Options like soy based formulas may be problematic if your new baby has a soy allergy that makes them sensitive to soy protein.

An allergy to milk proteins is a possibility as well, so a soy formula, or hydrolyzed formula, could actually be a great option.

5. The formula is in the proper form (or your baby.

Baby formula comes in various forms, so you’ll need to choose the one that’s best for your infant. These forms are:

Powdered formula: This formula comes as a powder and is mixed with water to prepare for use.

Liquid concentrate formula: This type of formula will require you to mix with equal parts water and shake before using.

Ready-to-use formula: This type of formula is ready for the baby as is. You won’t need to measure or mix. It’s quick, easy, and isn’t as messy.

Choosing The Company

1. The company is tried and true.

Always buy baby formula from a company you can trust. Ideally, you’ll choose a company with a great track record, and who’s been around for many years.

Brands like Enfamil have been around since the 1900’s, and have garnered status as the #1 trusted brand for brain-building and immune support.

2. The company offers convenience.

What’s better than a quality baby formula for newborns? A company that offers convenience for new moms.

New moms are busy, and often stressed, so getting your formula delivered easily is ideal.

Brands like Enfamil offer a subscription service so you can have formula delivered to you automatically!

3. The company offers education.

New moms need a whole lot more than just formula. Brands like Enfamil offer tons of education that mothers can use to prepare themselves for their new baby. This education is continuing, as the site offers blog posts for moms to learn about how to feed their babies. They also have a hub of content covering feeding issues and how to deal with them, as well as an educational video series, “Ask The Experts.”

4. The company offers tools.

Interactive tools come in quite handy as well. They can offer education, convenience, and more. The Enfamil brand has tons of tools available to new moms.

5. The company’s formula is affordable.

The average baby formula price is around $0.19/ounce according to The Simple Dollar.

What’s the use of a quality baby formula if no one can afford it? Brands like Enfamil offer a low price guarantee:

“It’s our goal to provide you with a great price on your baby’s formula. If you find a lower price at another retailer (third party sellers excluded) please give us a call at 1-800-BABY123 and we will offer a discount to match or beat it.”

The brand also offers a Rewards program for loyal customers and a 10% discount for signing up for the subscription service. And, if you sign up for their newsletter, you’ll receive a 10% offer pop up for new customers.

What are infant probiotics (and does your baby need them)?

Baby probiotics are supplements that offer nutritional support for your infant.

They have a whole host of benefits, and can contribute to all around better health for your little one.

These probiotics come in a liquid form so you can just add a few drops to a spoon to feed your baby or drop them right into your baby’s bottle with their formula. Enfamil Infant Probiotics can even be bundled with their baby formula for an even bigger discount.

Benefits of probiotics for babies:

  • They can potentially balance out good bacteria in the body.
  • They can help with colic in infants.

*According to the American Family Physician

FAQs

Where can I find Enfamil infant formula coupons?

The Offer hub on the Enfamil website is a great place to find coupons and free samples of baby formula.

What are the side effects of feeding a baby formula?

In some circumstances, your baby may experience tummy pain, gas, or have trouble sleeping. If you notice your baby has diarrhea, vomiting, or is not gaining weight, be sure to get in touch with your doctor.

How do I serve a baby bottle to my newborn?

Make sure to wash your hands before getting started. Then, make sure to clean the baby bottle, prepare the formula, and warm up the baby bottle in a pot of hot (not boiling) water, only if your baby prefers the warmth. If not, stick with a cold or room temperature bottle.

Be sure to test the temperature on the inside of your wrist, and never warm your baby’s formula in a microwave.

How do I know what formula is right for my baby?

Always look for formula from a trusted brand when formula feeding. You’ll also want to try and find an infant formula that is close to breast milk. And most importantly, always talk to your baby’s doctor first about which formula is best for your baby.

What do I do if my baby isn’t tolerating the formula?

If your baby isn’t tolerating the formula, double check with your doctor to make sure there isn’t an allergy issue.

Some formulas may cause gas and tummy troubles, so you may need to switch to a formula that’s easier to digest. You can also call into the Enfamil call center to report this.

How do I switch baby formulas?

If you found that your baby is allergic to a formula, it’s best to switch immediately after consulting with their pediatrician.

You can try switching gradually as well, by mixing the formulas or supplementing with the new one. Enfamil offers a great formula comparison tool to help you out with this process. As always, talk to your pediatrician first.

How do you wean from breast to bottle?

This process is best done gradually so your baby has time to get used to it. It’s best to bottle feed when your baby is least interested or distracted, such as during the morning or mid-afternoon.

How long do babies stay on formula?

In general, you may want to wean your child off of formula after 12 months. However, this timeline may be different for everyone. Always check with your doctor.

Are probiotics safe for newborns?

Probiotics are generally safe for newborns. However, always check with your child’s doctor before introducing them into their diet.

Becoming a new mom can be intimidating, but if you’re armed with the right information and ongoing education, things can get a whole lot easier!

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Is It Safe To Have Sex During Your Period?

Is It Safe To Have Sex During Your Period?|R-R

During your reproductive year, you’ll get a menstrual period about once a month.

There’s no need to avoid sexual activity during your period.

Though period sex can be a bit messy, it is safe.

Having sex when you’re menstruating can actually offer a few advantages, including relief from menstrual cramps.

What are the benefits of having sex during your period?

Is It Safe To Have Sex During Your Period?

Sex during period has a few up sides.

  1. Relief from cramps

Orgasm may relieve menstrual cramps.

Menstrual cramps are a result of your uterus contracting to release its lining.

When you have an orgasm, the muscles of your uterus also contract, then they release.

That release should bring some relief from period cramps.

Sex also triggers the release of chemicals called endorphins, which make you feel good.

Engaging in sexual activity occupies your mind, which may help take it off your menstrual discomfort.

  • Shorter periods

Having sex may make your periods shorter.

Muscle contractions during an orgasm push out the uterine contents faster. That could result in shorter periods.

  • Increased sex drive

Your libido changes throughout your menstrual cycle, thanks to hormonal fluctuations.

While many women say their sex drive increases during ovulation, which is about two weeks before your period, many report feeling more turned on during their period.

  • Natural lubrication

You can put away the KY gel during your period. Blood acts as a natural lubricant.

  • It might relieve your headache

About half of women with migraine headache get them during their periods.

Although most women with menstrual migraines avoid sex during their attacks, many of those who do have sex say it partially or completely relieves their headaches.

Tips On Having Sex During Your Period

sexIs It Safe To Have Sex During Your Period?

Here are a few tips to make period sex a more comfortable and less messy experience.

  • Be open and honest with your partner. Tell them how you feel about having sex during your period and ask how they feel about it.

If either of you is hesitant, talk about the reason behind the discomfort.

  • If you have a tampon in, remove it before you start fooling around.
  • Spread a dark-colored towel on the bed to catch any blood leaks, or have sex in the shower or bath to avoid the mess entirely.
  • Keep a wet wash cloth or wet wipes by the bed to clean up afterwards.
  • Have your partner wear a latex condom. It will protect against pregnancy and STIs. And it might make those males who have blood phobia feel more comfortable.
  • If your usual sexual position is uncomfortable, try something different. For example, you may want to try lying on your side with your partner behind you.

Don’t let your period put a halt to your sex life. If you do a little prep work, sex can be just as enjoyable during those four or so days, as it is the rest of the month.

You might be surprised to find that sex is even more exciting during your period.

What are the possible side effect of having sex during your period

  • The biggest down side to having sex during your period is the mess. Blood can get on you, your partner and the sheets, especially if you have a heavy flow.
  • Aside from dirtying the bed, bleeding may make you feel self-conscious. Anxiety over making a mess can take some or all of the fun out of sex.

But this can be prevented by avoiding your heavy flow days and have sex on the first and last 2days of your periods when you have a lighter flow.

  • Another worry about sex during your period is the risk of spreading a sexually transmitted infection (STI) like HIV or hepatitis. These viruses live in blood and they can spread through contact with infected menstrual blood.

Only have unprotected sex with people whose status you’re sure about and also using condoms every time you have unprotected sex can reduce your risk of spreading or catching an STI.

  • If you plan to have sex during your period and you’re wearing tampon, you need to remove it before hand. A forgotten tampon can get pushed so far up into your vagina during sex that you’ll need to see a doctor to have it removed.

Having sex with a girl who is on her period won’t give you chronic incurable cough as believed by many.

Can you get pregnant when you have sex during your period

If you aren’t actively trying to conceive, using protection is a good idea. No matter what part of your menstrual cycle you’re in.

Your chances of conceiving are lower during your period, but it’s still possible to become pregnant at this time.

You’re most likely to get pregnant during ovulation, which happens about 14days before your period starts.

Yet every woman’s cycle length is different and your cycle length can change monthly.

If you have a short menstrual cycle, your risk of getting pregnant during your period is higher.

Also consider that sperm can stay alive in your body for up to seven days. So if you have a 22-day cycle and you ovulate soon after getting your period, there’s a chance you’ll be releasing an egg while sperm are still in your reproduction tract.

Do you need to use protection when having sex during your period?

No, it’s not a must. Blood has no effects whatsoever on the penis but using protection will also guard you against STIs.

Not only can you get infected, but you can also more easily transmit one to your partner because viruses like HIV live in menstrual blood.

Have your partner wear a condom when you have sex to reduce your odds of getting pregnant and catching an STI.

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Day Four Memes, Quotes and Advice – Relationship Rig|R-R

One Day You Will Meet A Guy

One day, you’ll meet a guy and ultimately, he’s going to find out…

How you chew…

How you sip…

How you dance…

How you smell at every point in the day…

How your face looks underneath all your makeup…

How you love ice-cream and chocolate…

How you can be hyper at times…

How certain games and shows make you really happy…

How cranky you can get when you’re tired…

How you think you look bad in all your photos…

He’s going to know everything about you…

And you know WHAT?

He’s still going to LOVE YOU.

“We fight…we fix, the most important is we stay”

“If you worry you might be vulnerable to temptation on a business trip, practice resistance by reminding yourself the steps you will take to avoid temptation and protect your relationship”

“An apology has 3 parts, ‘I am sorry’, ‘it is my fault’ and ‘how can I make things better’. The last part is the most important”

Day Four Memes, Quotes and Advice – Relationship Rig
Day Four Memes, Quotes and Advice – Relationship Rig
Day Four Memes, Quotes and Advice – Relationship Rig

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